Are you striving for happiness and success, but feel stuck in a rut? What if I told you that your mindset can make all the difference? And what if I shared 6 hacks that can help you change your mindset and transform your life for good?
Happiness and success is what most of us aspire for in life, yet for many people happiness always seems to be out of reach no matter what they do, or don’t do. Indeed, several research studies show that the majority of people around the world would choose to be happy over anything else - happiness over success, happiness over wealth, etc. However, according to The Happiness Report, 45% of people have not felt truly happy for more than 2 years, while 25% don’t know or have forgotten what it feels like to be truly happy.
Whether your goals are focused on your personal or work life, your mindset is the key to achieving them, and the tips below will help you shift perspective and change your mindset and transform your life.
Change Your Mindset With These 6 Hacks
1. Life isn’t happening to you, it is happening FOR you.
How many times have you thought “why does this stuff always happen to me?”, or “why does everything always go wrong?”. These thoughts are inevitable, but it is important that they are just passing thoughts.
Life isn’t out to get you, but it is here to teach you, and it won’t stop until you have learned the lessons that are meant for you to help you achieve your highest potential. There is a lesson to be found in every challenging situation, and if we pay attention and learn what we need to, we can prevent similar situations from occurring over and over.
Thinking that bad things are happening ‘to’ you immediately positions you as the victim - helpless and without any control over how you are experiencing life. The moment you shift your thinking to ‘life is happening for me’ and start paying attention, you’re in control and can find opportunity to learn and grow in every situation.
2. No one cares what you do. Really.
To some degree, we have all been conditioned to worry about what other people think about us and what we are doing. First of all, the majority of people have their own stuff to worry about, so it is highly unlikely they have time to be worrying about you. Furthermore, in my experience, the moment you stop caring what other people think, is the moment they stop caring what you do (if they ever did in the first place!).
We all have our own journey in this life and we are meant to live it. It has nothing to do with anyone else. The more you worry about what other people think, the more you stop yourself from living an authentic life, and the further from happiness you will drift.
3. You cannot change anyone else but yourself.
This should be called ‘relationships lesson 101’! We all seem to have to learn it one way or another during our lifetime, and it is usually surrounded by disappointment. You cannot change other people no matter how hard you try. The only person you have control over, and the only person you should be worrying about, is yourself.
Focus on yourself and the changes you want to make within you and in your life, and everything else will follow. As for the people that you’ve always hoped and wished would change? As you evolve and grow, you might be surprised to find that they don’t belong in your life anymore.
4. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Yes, you’ve heard this many times! But it is SO important, especially in this day and age of social media with constant and immediate access to other people’s lives - or rather, the life that other people want to showcase. And we all know that what we see isn’t necessarily real.
By comparing yourself to others, you are opening the door to self-doubt, insecurity, anxiety and over-thinking. The moment you start comparing yourself to others, your perspective is immediately and automatically skewed, encouraging negative feelings to take over. In essence, you are lowering your vibration and closing yourself off from all that is possible and all you are capable of.
Forget what other people are doing! Concentrate on your uniqueness, and on honouring the real, authentic you.
5. No one has it easy all the time, ever.
When you are stuck in a rut, it may seem like everyone else is cruising along and has it all figured out, whereas you are struggling and miserable. In moments like this, remember that this isn’t the case - most people show a brave face to the world, and don’t talk about their problems.
What you see is what other people want you to see. No one has it easy all the time - ever. Life just doesn’t work like that. Everyone has their own path to growth, their own lessons to learn, their losses, and failures, and grief to experience.
6. If you want the rainbow, you must put up with the rain.
Wishing, hoping, dreaming isn’t going to cut it, unless you are willing to put the work in. Whatever it is you are trying to achieve, you have to work at it daily. Don’t just visualise the end-goal; visualise yourself doing what you need to do in order to get there.
When things get tough, remind yourself that it is always darkest before the dawn. It is the tough times, the challenges, the storms in life, that teach us what we need to learn in order to get to the next place and reach that rainbow.
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